One of the phrases of the close environment, to couples who are undergoing some type of assisted reproduction treatment, which can generate the most feeling of misunderstanding, is undoubtedly this:
"Calm down, don't think about it and see how you get pregnant..."
But what happens when pregnancy does not arrive?
People who see their great desire to be parents unfulfilled (so far) suffer from this cause and sometimes, when they share their emotions, they find themselves in an environment whose intention is undoubtedly good, but that makes them feel that they do not understand what they feel or what they are going through, most of them with children by the way. Everyone suffers (although not at the same level), the couple who cannot have children and their environment, especially the closest one, who are witnesses of that suffering and do not know what they have to do to prevent the emotional discomfort that their family or friends are going through.
How to deal with assisted reproduction treatment?
It is important to dedicate these lines to a few brief tips to avoid enhancing negative sensations while facing assisted reproduction treatment (hereinafter ART):
- Listening: When someone shares their emotions with us, sometimes we do not have to look for solutions or at least that is not what they ask of us, but simply to listen. Allow the person to talk, communicate, share how they feel, download.
- Accompany: We can be close to the person, so that when they need it we can accompany them, both physically and emotionally.
- Sharing: Sharing is not feeling the same as the other, but dedicating time even to ourselves for leisure to improve the emotional moment they are experiencing.
- Balance: It is advisable to find the balance between avoiding conversations that have to do with the moment they are living, or turning such information into a monotopic.
- Support: Their decisions have not been easy, but every emotional process is easier with support and understanding.
- Respect: The times that people require to share information, the decisions made, the emotions felt. They will feel much more accompanied.
- Understand: We are not living the same as them and we cannot prevent them from suffering if they do not see their great desire, to create a family, fulfilled. The suffering that is generated is according to the emotional moment they are experiencing, it is part of the process.
Most patients who undergo ART treatment go through significant psychological symptoms at some point: when the partner does not achieve the goal and the causal factor of the non-pregnancy is not found, the lack of understanding in the face of this fact makes us desperate and signs of anxiety begin, in some cases reaching low self-esteem or depression. If we reach this point and notice how suffering changes us, it is when we have to consult a specialist. We hope that these lines will help you to position yourself emotionally in a more practical and effective way to face this moment with your environment in a more positive way. At Barcelona IVF we understand that the emotional aspects have to be taken care of during assisted reproduction treatments in order to be able to become parents and enjoy this new stage as it deserves.
